I recently had an experience where someone told me something hoping to make me upset. They did this over a weekend through a text message, so I had time to process the information before just blowing up or blowing it out of proportion.
I knew this person wanted to make me angry & see me upset or hurt. The next time I saw this person the only thing he wanted to discuss was this bit of information that he thought I should be mad about.
I was able to take the weekend to prepare & go into the conversation with a positive attitude knowing full well that wasn't what he wanted.
However, I didn't want to buy into the negativity & have a bad attitude! By the end of the conversation I was so positive about it he got mad and walked away & I realized I really felt that positive about the situation that I normally would have allowed myself to be upset by!
I don't understand why people do this & why we allow ourselves to buy into the negativity - I think if we only had time to process information or took the time to process things there would be a lot less hurt around all of us.
Good response Lacey. I think the reason said person did it was because He wanted to make you mad, kinda backfired on him Huh?
ReplyDeleteIt is always better to think before we speak. If I am caught short and a response is demanded...I always say 'pardon?' like i didn't hear so I can formulate a response.